Try just being a decent person, and treat her like a friend, you know, like someone you want to know about. It isn't "simping" by being respectful and thoughtful. Trust me, it will work with girls who are worth getting to know and possibly getting intimate with too. Make sure that person is someone you want to make that memorable and loving, respectful to both, enjoyed by both. That is the best world. Being a decent person and listening isn't simping. I know these choices seem ominous.  Good luck to you.  Be safe.